Human connection. It’s everything to me. It’s probably one of the things I need most in life. It showcases for me, the very clear difference between just wanting something and then actually needing it. It’s about giving people all parts of you. The scary parts, the life altering parts, the little parts, all the freaking parts. When you share these things, when you connect in this sort of way, you make a spark ignite. It’s when energy shows up in the world and in your body oh so unexpectedly.
I haven’t always been like this. I haven’t always wanted to socialize with people I didn’t know. I didn’t really appreciate when others dropped some hard wisdom on me and I definitely wasn’t open to the idea of being uncomfortable. All of which encompass this human connection.
There were definitely times I wouldn’t have wanted to share all the pieces of me with others. There were times I pretended to be something or someone I wasn’t to ultimately connect with the wrong type of people. People that looked beautiful on the outside but were ugly on the inside. People that didn’t want to change the world. People that were wrapped up in the drama, the gossip, not grateful and for sure not living in the moment. Boy, was I wrong about human connection a number of times.
I can remember being a little girl and my dad telling me “It’s all about relationships Alexa.” He probably told me this daily and my young self rolled her eyes (of course not in front of him) and thought he was totally full of it. Truth is he was always right, it just took me awhile to get there.
These are the reasons human connection is a need and not just a want … This is what you should strive for in your relationships. The relationships with strangers, family and best friends.
Human connection —
It makes you uncomfortably comfortable. Here I go again with the contradictions, but really it makes sense. Sometimes you connect with people on such another level that you are so comfortable that it’s frightening which makes you then feel uncomfortable. You then think there’s no possible way the universe could have put you two together for a reason and then you think again … it must have. Putting yourself in uncomfortable situations allows you to grow as a human. It allows you to become surprised.
It requires vulnerability and lots of it. Yikes, this is the hard part. It’s being open, like real open. To all your emotions and being all up in your feels. Sometimes this might mean you’re gonna cry in front of someone. Maybe it means you’re gonna cry in public somewhere. Maybe you start telling people secrets about yourself that you never thought you would tell, but then realize it feels good to say it out loud. When you allow yourself to be vulnerable you allow yourself freedom to be in your skin. You remove barriers and feel weight off your shoulders.
It invites relationships you never expected. This is the craziest truth I have ever experienced. The amount of relationships I currently have that began at the local coffee shops are insane, or over social media, or at the bar during happy hour. My first speaking gig I ever received was from a man that was simply wearing an Ohio State t-shirt at Starbucks that I started a conversation with because I am an Ohio State fan. My fellow van gal Sloane and I met over social media, we met up for a weekend in Sedona (after never meeting in person) and she is literally family now. My friend Ellen and I also met via social media and I literally got on a plane to Oklahoma and stayed at her to speak at her event (after never meeting her in person beforehand). My list of people like this goes on and on … so don’t be afraid of strangers because sometimes you have more in common with them than you do with anyone in your current life.
It gives you wisdom you didn’t know existed. I always say tell your story because you never know who is listening, who you can help or who is willing to join your army. With that said, allowing yourself the opportunity to actually engage with others you naturally realize how small you and your problems are because you realize everyone is going through the same life issues.
It’s crucial to life, simply put.