Life is all about balance. Balance in what you do and why you do it. It's is all about prioritizing. Prioritizing your goals, your passions, your commitments, your relationships, your financials, your social life, you mental health and your physical health. Just as people say you need a "balanced diet" with what you are consuming through you mouth, you need the same for your entire body, your entire life.
This is when we create list after list of what "to do" when "to do" it why we need "to do" it. It's having planner after planner. A written planner you take everywhere with you, one on your phone, one on your computer, a big one in your office or your room and notes scattered on your phone telling you where and when to be somewhere. It's when the stress begins to pile on. It's when you start to hermit and then you don't prioritize anything on the list. It's called being overwhelmed.
Friend, I get you. I know on my end I have a hard time prioritizing because I have so many things I want to get done and I can't sit still to save the life of me. I am the type of person who wants to start EVERYTHING all at once. Here's a secret -- it never works. This is when I started creating to do lists (sometimes they are a bit ridiculous but for me it works). I am an extremely, extremely visual person so accountability on my end comes in the form of highlighters (and lots of em) in my planner. I get pure enjoyment by crossing something off in a bright, pretty color and the satisfaction just warms my soul.
I would say my top priorities in my life right now are my health, my business and the relationship I have with those closest to me (me included). What are your top 3?
Now sure, I have narrowed it down to three but then I have tiers underneath those three and that's where things get difficult. That's where things get chaotic. That's why my to do lists are a bit overwhelming to say the least.
I am sure you guys are the same way and feel me a little bit. If we talk about my health ... well we have my physical health and my mental health. When we talk about my business we have my speaker side, the author side, and everything in between. Not to mention in order to do those things I have to work for income ... substitute teaching, babysitting, tutoring, and the grind continues. Relationships?! We have family, we have friends and we have the relationship with myself. My family doesn't live near me so I have to put effort and a lot of effort into phone calls, text messages and packages to maintain constant contact (which I love doing and is important to me). My friends, same thing my besties for life, my forever friends don't live in my state and we are all busy as hell and all live in different locations, in different timezones, with lives much different from when we started being bffae's, but it's a priority to me to check in on them and vice versa. My friends, that have become my family in the state I live in ... I have FOMO (fear of missing out, and a lot of them have fomo too) which means I enjoy the heck out of hanging out with them and we do as much as we can when we can.
My three priorities just turned in to about 13 (million) different things. SHIT. I am sure you have something similar going on in your crazy, busy, fun, exciting, boring, dull, fulfilling lives as well. But we have to find balance. I have to find balance. It's important. It's needed. It's extremely necessary.
How I balance my life diet ...
work vs. play (in my case travel)
I am all about the grind; to thrive under all circumstances. To do whatever it takes to make shit happen. This means little to no sleep at times, forgetting to eat at others times, working a million and one side gigs in order to do the ultimate, which is whatever that dream job is. Mine just happens to be to conquer the world which means lots of work to be done for just one girl (boss babe). The way I balance this and the stress of making sure I have an income when I am not making one from my own personal business is to "play." For me this is travel. It's getting myself into another environment which usually allows me to gain new inspiration and wisdom to be able to dive back into my work again and go at it full force.
working out to look good naked vs. working out to stimulate my brain
Working out to "look good naked" is my physical heath. This has always been a top priority in my life and to be honest I don't feel like my day is complete without a workout. Yes, even when I am on vacation or out of town I feel the need to work out (I'm one of those freaks). This to me, even though I choose to do this, is a job. It's something that has to be done. I balance this with working out to stimulate my brain. Things like yoga, pilates and spin. Taking classes where I am drenched of sweat when I walk out. With that said there are plenty of times people say "Alexa you already worked out today you don't need to again." Fair ... but for me that hour or two hours I took in the morning to start my day was a job this is the hour I am using for me to regenerate and refocus.
penny pincher vs. rewarding myself
I am a huge saver. Like used to save 50% of every paycheck if not more. When I was younger I had a million envelopes (instead of a piggy bank) in my room filled with money "for Christmas" "for my boyfriends birthday" "for travel" etc. Saving was a huge part of my life and I stress when I don't do this. But, I learned in order to start a business sometimes you have to take risks. Money risks being one of them (cue the barf). One in which will give me a heart palpitation but its again necessary. So I have learned to not feel guilty in buying a new outfit (if I haven't in months), or spend money on travel (it's the one thing that is impossible for me to do). You have to remember that you can't take the money with you when you're gone. Find a happy medium. Pay your bills but buy yourself something nice every now and again.
healthy foods vs. chocolate ice cream
I try to eat healthy most of the time. When I go to the grocery store I typically buy the same food every single time. Chicken, ground turkey, spinach, bananas, eggs, turkey bacon, cotton cheese, broccoli, apples and some almonds. Pretty typical for all the heatlh conscious eaters of the world. However, chocolate ice is nearly impossible for me to say no too. I don't eat it every night, but might if someone asked. I indulge but I try not to binge.
reading to educate vs. reading to imagine
I am obsessed with reading. It's almost a problem because sometimes I don't want to do anything else besides curl up and read book after book. I am the nerd that gets anxiety if I don't finish a book in a week. Many business owners try to just read business books (don't blame them). But then only read business books, or self-help books. Don't get me wrong I love that and enjoy educating myself on my craft and working on me but I HAVE to mix it up. I need time for my brain to digest what I am reading when it comes to business and self-help. I love reading murders, mysteries, and poems. I am obsessed lately with poem books. Book #35 going on a million for 2018.
laughs vs. cries
It's really important to take life less seriously at times. To laugh when you're not supposed to just so you can smile and relieve some stress. However, sometimes when the stress is too much you just need a good cry. THAT'S OKAY. Last week I did a lot of both and hey the week turned out just fine.
In the end folks, a well balanced LIFE diet is an absolute must for you to stay sane and stay young. It's an absolute must for you to stop taking life so seriously all while make it a serious priority. It's an absolute must for you to survive.