Okay ladies and gentlemen we're all human here (at least I think so) and we all get in those funks that sometimes we can't seem to get ourselves out of, myself included. Instead of saying "what the actual f*ck, how did I get here?!" just start going with "what the funk?" (thank jc).
Very recently I was just in this little funk I am talking about ...
I had just finished my book and thought "crap. what the heck is my purpose now?"
I am at that stage in recovery from back surgery where I am doing more, a lot more in fact but am not seeing instant changes. I know, I know patience is a virtue and shit but sometimes we all want a little instant gratification (not gonna happen though).
I am fully aware that I chose to quit my job (and that I am always traveling and travel well costs money) and do the whole sink or swim with my livin' the dream business but poop I am like "where is my income at?!" again patience friend.
basically y'all WHAT THE FUNK?!
I am imagining as you are reading this you might be saying things like "dude suck it up, stop complaining, you're livin' the dream still, you travel (all the fricken time), did you hear yourself? you just wrote a damn book, and you had back surgery, like four screws and two rods put in and you're expecting instant bounce back?
Woah guys, calm down, not so fast and ouch. Like I said I AM HUMAN TOO. I go through funks, just like you. I go through times where I want to sleep more than I want to be awake just to not have to deal with anything. I snap when I hear a song that reminds me of a person that I don't want to think about and because the emotions just go way to deep. I go through moments where I don't think anything I am doing is leading me to the direction I want to be in. I cry (like full on tears) at therapy because I think there is too much cottage cheese, not in my refrigerator but you guessed it on my legs. I also cry in yoga (thank goodness we are all sweating like pigs in there because it just looks like added sweat) because I can't touch my toes or I don't want to honor my current body and I even might (I totally do) cry at complete random times at my kitchen table for no reason at all. I panic when I spend too much money but mentally think ah that's what my credit card is for right?
Now you're thinking "haha Alexa actually doesn't have it together at all but she sure makes it look like it." EXACTLY. Fake it till you become it. I try to be as transparent as possible. I show the highlight reel of my life but I truly try to show you the bloopers in my reel too. This is one of my bloopers.
My funk is just that and yours too. A blooper. Something that happens but you just have to keep trying in order to fix it. Work at it and things will go back to the highlights, back to the look good on the outside but feel even better on the inside.
So how do you get out of these funks?!
- You take a lot of deep breathes. A lot.
- You keep momentum going, because motivation and momentum to me, are interchangeable. If you don't have one find a way to get the other but stop waiting for thunderstorm of motivation to fall on your lap. It's just not gonna happen.
- You force yourself to do things. Don't do things just when you're "inspired" (I used to say and do this so don't feel bad) But ... Get out of bed. Stop crying. Get over yourself. Stop crying. Get on it. Stop crying. Get a new attitude. Stop Crying.
- You believe in yourself. Simply put right? This is much more difficult when you're in a funk. So instead of telling yourself "I suck" tell yourself "I rock."
- You make a choice and run with it.
For me, that whole what is my purpose after completing my book? It's to continue to do my part in changing the world. To ask, "what's next?!" To do more. To come up with more ideas. To create more. It's making the choice and decision to strive for more.
How did I get out of this I want instant gratification with my body phase? Well to be honest I still want instant gratification because well wouldn't that just be the bees knees. But instead I am focusing on what day at a time, looking at myself in the mirror instead of avoiding it, and eating as damn healthy as can be.
And as far as wanting the money trees to blossom I just had to remind myself that risk equals reward and that this is exactly what I wanted to be doing and I will absolutely get where I want to be, in time.
You guessed it though ... I am currently out of my funk. I am sure I will get in another one (but not soon I won't allow that). I have more ideas than my mind knows what to do with. I have my fullness in my heart than there is room for and I am ready to take more leaps of faith than I am probably "ready" for but hey who's ever actually ready for anything?