You know when someone promises you something and you are filled with hope? Hope that this promise will be fulfilled. Hope that it lines up with your expectations. Hope that it’s not an empty promise … one that leaves you unfulfilled, one that leaves you with questions, one that leaves you with nothing.
Hope itself is the desire and expectation for something to happen. I have learned that we can’t hold onto expectations for others, we can only hold them for ourselves. All in all we wish that we could control the uncontrollable, the fake expectations we put on those who tell fake promises and then we begin to flounder. We flounder because we lose faith, we lose trust. We become closed off to opportunities and connections.
I am having the case of being given empty promise after empty promise. Promises filled with hope shortly followed by promises filled with disappointment. It’s been a downward spiral and has caused me to become extremely closed off with people and things and moments.
I have a difficult time trusting in general. I would say, typically the trust was thin when “feels” were involved. When it was with someone I really cared about because I was afraid to get hurt by them and never sure if their intentions were pure. This happens after you’ve been burned a time or two. When you let people in time and time again because you give everyone the benefit of the doubt. Anyone else know what I am saying?!
Lately though, I am getting this feeling with everyone (and I hate that). It’s not a good feeling to have. To never know if intentions are coming from a good place. To never trust someone’s promises or even just their words in general. To know that you are naive and give everyone the benefit of the doubt just to be let down.
To be honest I am writing this just so I can let it stop consuming my mind … and because I know deep down a lot of other people are feeling this. Whether it is in a business venture your own or someone elses, in relationships romantic or not, within opportunities given or taken away you or the other endless possible places this happens in …
What do we do next? First, we let it consume us. Next, we dwell in it and pity ourselves. Then, we become brave enough to stand up for ourselves and lastly, we move on and realize it’s probably just not gonna happen.
For those of you exhausted by empty promises and full disappoints remember this…
Be aware of your environment and the people that are in it.
Control what you can control and the rest you have to move on from.
Know your worth, all of it.
Not every promise is an empty promise. Some people do hold themselves accountable.
Consider all of your options and go with your gut.
Don’t be bitter (so much easier said than done).
Learn from your mistakes and don’t let them happen again. It’s important to not fall into the same traps.
Stand up for yourself because no one else is going to for you but choose your battles wisely.